A Guide for New & Expectant Parents

The Hidden Risks of Kissing Babies — A Guide for New & Expectant Parents

The arrival of a newborn baby often brings an outpouring of affection from friends and family. Cuddles, close contact and kisses are instinctive ways people express love. However, during the first weeks and months of life, these well-meaning gestures can sometimes pose genuine health risks.

Newborn babies have immature immune systems, making them particularly vulnerable to infections that are harmless to adults but potentially serious — and, in rare cases, life-threatening — for infants. Today’s article explains why kissing newborns can be risky, the science behind their vulnerability, and how parents can confidently encourage safer behaviour without damaging important relationships.

Why Newborns Are More Vulnerable to Infection

An Immature Immune System in the First Months of Life

At birth, a baby’s immune system is still learning how to respond effectively to bacteria and viruses. While babies receive some antibodies from their mother during pregnancy, these offer only partial and temporary protection.

In the first few months of life, infants produce fewer infection-fighting antibodies and have limited immune “memory”. This means that viruses and bacteria that cause mild symptoms in adults can potentially lead to serious illness in newborns, including blood infections (sepsis), meningitis, encephalitis (brain inflammation), and breathing difficulties. Infections can spread rapidly. The NHS therefore advises that young babies are at higher risk of complications from infections — even more so if they were born prematurely — and should be protected from unnecessary exposure wherever possible.

The Developing Blood-Brain Barrier in Infants

One lesser-known but important factor is the blood-brain barrier. This barrier acts as a protective filter between the bloodstream and the brain, helping prevent harmful substances and microbes from reaching the central nervous system.

The blood-brain barrier acts as a protective filter between the bloodstream and the brain, but is not fully developed in infancy.

In newborn babies, the blood-brain barrier is not yet fully mature, particularly during the first few months of life. As a result, certain viruses and bacteria are more able to cross into the brain. Infections can escalate more quickly, and therefore potentially devastating neurological complications are more likely than in older children. This is one reason why infections in newborns are taken so seriously by healthcare professionals and often require urgent investigation.

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How Infections Can Be Passed to Babies Through Kissing

Why Saliva and Close Contact Increase Risk

Kissing — especially on the face, lips or head — brings an adult’s saliva and skin into close contact with a baby’s mouth, nose and eyes. This can transmit microbes even when the person feels completely well.

Commonly transmitted infections include cold and flu viruses, Respiratory Syncytial Virus (RSV), and bacterial infections carried by adults. In many cases, adults have no idea they are even carrying these microbes.

54% of new and expectant parents would let friends and family kiss their newborn baby, unaware of the risk of serious infection.” — The Lullaby Trust

Neonatal Herpes and Kissing Newborns

What Is Neonatal Herpes?

One of the most serious infections associated with kissing newborns is neonatal herpes, caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV).

HSV-1 vs. HSV-2: What Parents Should Know

HSV-1 is commonly associated with cold sores around the mouth, while HSV-2 is more often linked to genital herpes. Both types can cause neonatal herpes if transmitted to a baby through direct contact with infected saliva or skin, especially when cold sore blisters are evident. Importantly, though, in some circumstances, transmission can occur even when no visible cold sore is evident.

In newborns, HSV can spread rapidly and may affect the skin, eyes, mouth, organs or central nervous system. Early symptoms can be subtle, which is why prevention is so important. Avoiding kisses is therefore a simple and sensible temporary precaution.

“Despite the risk, 63% of new and expectant parents would feel uneasy asking visitors not to touch their baby, worried that they’d offend someone, hurt their feelings, or be labelled an overprotective parent.”
— The Lullaby Trust ()

How Parents Can Reduce the Risk of Infection

The T.H.A.N.K.S. Approach (Think Hands And No KisseS)

The Lullaby Trust promotes a simple, memorable message to help reduce infection risk in newborns:

The T.H.A.N.K.S. Approach (Think Hands And No KisseS)

This encourages people to think carefully about infection risks, wash their hands before touching the baby, and avoid kisses, especially in the early weeks.

Hand Hygiene and Visitor Safety

Hand washing also remains one of the most effective ways to reduce infection transmission. Anyone handling a newborn should wash their hands thoroughly with soap and water, especially after travelling, coughing, or touching shared surfaces.

Why Unwell Visitors Should Stay Away

Visitors who are unwell — even mildly — should avoid close contact with newborns. This includes cold sores, coughs, stomach bugs or flu-like symptoms. Parents should explain and be confident about delaying visits until everyone is healthy.

How to Ask Friends & Family Not to Kiss Your Baby

Asking friends or relatives not to kiss your baby can feel uncomfortable, particularly with older generations. However, most people respond positively when the reason is explained calmly and clearly.

Simple phrases like “We’re being extra careful in these early weeks while the baby’s immune system is still developing” or “We’re following medical advice to avoid kisses for now, because newborns are at heightened risk” can help set boundaries without causing offence.

It’s worth remembering that protecting your baby’s health is not over-protective — it is responsible parenting. There is therefore no need to feel bad about it.

Protecting Babies in Their Earliest Weeks

So, to sum up, kissing a newborn may be a natural expression of love, but during the earliest months of life, it can carry risks that many people are unaware of. Because babies have immature immune systems and incomplete protective barriers, preventing unnecessary exposure to infections is a sensible precaution.

With clear communication, good hygiene, and approaches like T.H.A.N.K.S., parents can protect their baby’s health while still allowing friends and family to bond safely. Such an approach will give their child the healthiest possible start — and could even save their life.

Little Acorns Nursery, Hindley Green, Wigan

Little Acorns Nursery & Preschool in Hindley Green, near Wigan, Bolton & Manchester

Little Acorns is a nursery in Hindley Green, near Wigan, and may also suit those living nearby, for example, in Bolton, Ince-in-Makerfield, Platt Bridge, Westhoughton, Atherton, Leigh, Bickershaw, and Tyldesley. We offer high-quality weekday childcare for babies and children under five and support free childcare hours for eligible families. Follow the bold links for more information, or begin your application for a childcare place or free nursery tour using the buttons below. We look forward to meeting you!

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When to Seek Medical Advice for a Newborn

If a newborn shows signs such as poor feeding, lethargy, fever, unusual crying, breathing difficulties or a rash, parents should seek medical advice promptly via their GP, NHS 111, or emergency services if there are serious concerns. And parents: trust your gut feelings — you know your child best!

 

A Quick Guide to the EYFS (Early Years Foundation Stage)

EYFS stands for the ‘Early Years Foundation Stage’ learning and development framework..Parents* of under-fives may have heard nurseries, pre-schools, childcare professionals and other parents referring to “the EYFS”. However, what is it, and how does it affect your children? Well, the full description of the EYFS is over 50 pages long — but few of us have time for that. So today, we give you our Quick Guide to the EYFS, so you can get a good overview of it and learn how it applies to your child — all in just five minutes or so.

What is the EYFS?

Firstly, EYFS stands for Early Years Foundation Stage. In essence, it’s a carefully-specified ‘framework’ or ‘methodology’ around which the entire approach to early years learning, development and care is built. It covers babies, from birth, and children aged up to 5. We explain what the framework covers in more detail, together with its aims, later in this guide.

Is the EYFS Optional?

The EYFS ensures that high standards of early years education, childcare provision and safeguarding are maintained.For early years practitioners in England, following the EYFS framework is not optional. It is actually enshrined in law in England, via Section 39 of the Childcare Act 2006, so is an important and binding entity. (Other parts of the UK have similar equivalents).

Nurseries, pre-schools, childminders and other early years providers have to abide by the rules and approach outlined, in detail, within the EYFS guidance. This is a way to ensure that high standards of early years education, childcare provision and safeguarding are followed and maintained, for the well-being of the children.

Where Does Ofsted Come Into It?

Adherence of childcare and early years providers to the rules, methodologies, guidance, recommendations and measures specified in the EYFS framework is monitored by Ofsted, the UK Government’s Office for Standards in Education, Children’s Services and Skills. Ofsted monitors all early years providers in England, each of which must be registered with them and follow the EYFS rules. Regular visits and inspections take place and, indeed, this is where ‘Ofsted reports’ for early years settings come from.

What are the Main Aims of the EYFS?

The EYFS framework recognises that every child is unique and aims to maximise their well-being, skills, knowledge and life-long potential. This is done by:

  • The EYFS framework recognises that every child is unique and aims to maximise their well-being, skills, knowledge and life-long potential.Ensuring high levels of safeguarding, welfare and happiness for every child at an early years setting;
  • Ensuring that every child feels valued and experiences equal opportunities;
  • Ensuring that the early years education and care for each child is consistent and of high quality;
  • Helping children achieve personal bests, in a wide variety of skills;
  • Helping them to build their knowledge of a wide range of topics and of the world;
  • Giving them every opportunity to prepare thoroughly for the transition to school once they leave their early years setting;
  • Encouraging a close partnership and common aims between early years practitioners and the parents of the children. Read more about the importance of parental involvement in early years education here.

By close and careful nurturing of every aspect of children’s early learning and development, those children build the foundations for the very best start in life. It is then that they are they likely to reach their fullest potential, in the short, medium and long term.

What Form Does the EYFS Framework Take?

The EYFS framework consists of 4 key components:

  1. A programme governing every aspect of every child’s unique learning and development — effectively being their own bespoke curriculum;
  2. Learning goals, tailored to every child, to bring out their best in every area;
  3. Continuous assessment of every child, to ensure they progress towards their goals, through the learning and development plan that’s tailored to each of them;
  4. A safeguarding and welfare framework i.e. statutory requirements and guidelines designed to ensure the safety and well-being of children at early years settings.

We’ll take each in turn to give a bit more detail …

1. The EYFS Learning & Development Programmes

This element is, in effect, the curriculum and covers 7 areas of their learning and development:

  1. The EYFS curriculum element covers 7 areas of their learning and development.Communication and Language;
  2. Physical Development;
  3. Personal, Social and Emotional Development;
  4. Literacy;
  5. Mathematics;
  6. Understanding the World;
  7. Expressive Arts and Design.

The 7 core areas are designed for each child in a very structured way and approached through play, exploration, active learning, creativity and critical thinking. We’ll go into much more detail about the 7 areas of the EYFS curriculum in a separate, future post in due course.

2. The EYFS Goals

A set of goals, tailored for each child, is generated for each of the 7 areas of their learning and development. Childcare professionals – and ideally parents at home too – will help children work towards those goals.

3. EYFS Child Assessments

Assessments are made for each child, against a set of goals, on a continuous basis.As they work towards their individual goals, assessments will be made, for each child, on a continuous basis. By assessing the children, the learning and development programme and the goals themselves can be tailored and fine-tuned along the way, as required. This will optimise each child’s progress and achievements.

Children also receive a ‘Progress Check at 2’ report as part of this, the age of two being an important developmental milestone when it comes to learning and development. Similarly, each child will have an ‘Early Years Foundation Stage Profile’ (EYFSP) compiled for them as they approach the age of five. This will be useful information ready for when the child leaves the early years setting to begin school.

We’ll perhaps write separate, more detailed posts about some of the above in due course.

4. EYFS Safeguarding & Welfare Specifications

Another key and crucial element of the EYFS relates to the safeguarding and welfare of each child. The EYFS specifies statutory requirements for early years settings in this regard. In essence, early years and childcare providers have to do everything they can to keep children safe, happy and well — of course. For example, specifications within the EYFS framework require settings and providers to:

  • Another key element of the EYFS governs children's safeguarding and welfare.Ensure those who have access to children are suitable, safe, pre-vetted people;
  • Ensure staff are trained and suitably qualified;
  • Appoint a ‘Key Person’ to oversee and monitor the learning and development of each child;
  • Maintain minimum staff-to-child ratios;
  • Promote good health at the setting, including the administration of medicines;
  • Foster a good approach to children’s eating and drinking;
  • Provide adequately in regard to instances of injury, accident or illness;
  • Provide a safe premises with appropriate Health & Safety levels and protocols all in place;
  • Provide sufficient levels of space and activity opportunities both indoors and outside;
  • Ensure only the ‘right’ people can enter the premises and access the children;
  • Provide appropriate levels of support for children with special educational needs or disabilities;
  • and more!

Overall, the EYFS is a framework that is designed to provide a safe, stimulating, and nurturing environment for children to learn and develop in their early years. It recognises that children learn best through play and practical, hands-on experiences. It focuses on the individual needs and interests of each child and provides a complete, holistic approach to their learning and development. Learn more about what to expect for your child from the EYFS here (Acrobat PDF document).

A High Quality Nursery & Pre-School in Hindley Green, near Wigan

Little Acorns Nursery & Pre-School in Hindley Green, near Wigan, Bolton & Manchester

We wholeheartedly support the aims and implementation of the EYFS at Little Acorns Nursery in Hindley Green. If you are considering enrolling your child at our nursery or pre-school, we would be happy to give you and your child a tour and answer any questions you may have. We can also provide information on the various childcare funding options that are available to eligible families. You can register your child, schedule a visit, or contact us using the buttons below.

Little Acorns is a wonderful nursery & pre-school in Hindley Green and may also suit those looking for the best childcare service near Wigan, Bickershaw, Leigh, Atherton, Westhoughton, Ince-in-Makerfield, Platt Bridge, Tyldesley, Bolton and Greater Manchester.

* We use the term ‘parents’ for the sake of brevity. In the context of this article and website, it is also a placeholder for the main carer(s) or guardian(s) of children.